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Why Planners Get Upset When Plans Change

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If you’re here, you may be a planner. But it’s more likely that you’re not.

Most likely you prefer to live in the moment, make decisions based on what makes the most sense to you at any particular time, and reserve the right to change plans when you feel like it.

If that describes you o-spontaneous-one, then you may find individuals who lean toward the planning side strange.

Why do they get so upset when plans change?

Why do they want to know the plan so far in advance?

Why do they even need a plan at all?

As someone who is a planner myself, I thought you might find it enlightening to get an insider scoop on a view inside the mind of a planner. That way even if you see things very differently, you can at least understand how the other side thinks.

Plans Are Literal: When you say, “Let’s get together to watch a movie on Friday night.” A planner understands this as, “we are getting together to watch a movie on Friday night.” They don’t think, “maybe we’ll watch a movie” or “we’ll watch a movie if something else more interesting doesn’t come up” or “that was just an idea and I better confirm to make sure the other person didn’t forget about it entirely.” Nope, they take the words literally, put the movie time in their calendar, and expect that it will happen at that time.

Plans Are Planned For: If a planner expects to do something at a specific time with you, they will plan around that activity to make it happen. For example if they think they’re going to a movie with you on a Friday night, they will go to the gym on Thursday instead of Friday to get all their workouts in, they’ll look up movies they might want to see, they’ll plan what outfit they’ll wear, and they’ll look over their work schedule to be sure that they can leave on time. If you all of the sudden decide you’re not going to the movies with a planner, they perceive it not only as “messing up” what they had planned for that evening but also a waste of the time and effort they put into prepping to be ready for that event.

Plans Are Anticipated: Planners not only put physical energy into planning for upcoming events but they also put emotional weight on them. Planners tend to look forward to things both literally and emotionally. So the idea of going to the movies with you on a Friday night will be something that they anticipate. Because there’s anticipation involved, there can also be disappointment.

Lack of Plans is Paralyzing: Although you may find plans oppressive, planners find plans liberating. Without a plan, such as whether you’re going to the movies or not, and without details such as, which movie you’ll see, where and when, planners can feel a little stuck. They’re uncertain of exactly when they need to leave work so they can get ready in enough time to make it to the movies. That can make them angsty weighing out the possibilities of what they can or can’t accomplish at work and what they can expect to get done at home.

So there you have it! There are at least four reason why planners really like plans and why it means a lot to them if you keep your plans with them.

About Real Life E

Elizabeth Grace Saunders is the founder and CEO of Real Life E® a time coaching company that empowers individuals who feel guilty, overwhelmed and frustrated to feel peaceful, confident and accomplished. She was named one of the World’s Top 30 Time Management Professionals. The Christian division of her company focuses on a God-centered approach to time management through Divine Time Management.

McGraw Hill published her first book The 3 Secrets to Effective Time Investment: How to Achieve More Success with Less Stress. Harvard Business Review published her second book How to Invest Your Time Like Money. FaithWords published her third book Divine Time Management: The Joy of Trusting in God’s Loving Plans for You. Elizabeth contributes to blogs like Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Fast Company and has appeared on CBS, ABC, NBC, and Fox. 

About Elizabeth Grace Saunders

Elizabeth Grace Saunders is the founder and CEO of Real Life E® a time coaching and training company that empowers individuals who feel guilty, overwhelmed and frustrated to feel peaceful, confident and accomplished through an exclusive Schedule Makeover™ process. She is an expert on achieving more success with less stress. Real Life E® also increases employee productivity, satisfaction and work/life balance through custom training programs.

McGraw Hill published her first book The 3 Secrets to Effective Time Investment: How to Achieve More Success with Less Stress. Elizabeth contributes to blogs like Lifehacker, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and the 99U blog on productivity for creative professionals. She was selected as one of the Top 25 Amazing Women of the Year by Stiletto Woman.

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  1. Kenia Clark says

    April 8, 2021 at 11:07 pm

    I felt like I was living through this blog. I resonate with every single sentence. I didn’t know other people thought the exact same way about plans. Letting go of those plans is easier said than done, for I too feel the emotional drainage when plans get cancelled. As with my yoga practice, letting go of the change of plans is a never ending practice.

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