I’ve noticed that when people hesitate to admit how they would like to be spending their time, it’s usually due to one of these three areas …
Feeling Overwhelmed: This tends to happen when you face a very large or very unknown opportunity, goal or dream. You don’t know where to start. You don’t know who to turn to. And you don’t know if you’re actually capable of accomplishing what you have in mind.
Feeling Timid: This usually results when you have some things in your life that are super important to you, but may seem too small or insignificant to be important. This could be anything from leaving work on time so you could walk your dog before dark or having more time to pursue a hobby you really enjoy or simply having more time for reading and quality conversations. Often times little joys can be devalued so you can be timid to admit that’s what you really want more of in your life.
Feeling Embarrassed: Depending on your natural tendencies and your environment, you may have received and potentially accepted some very strong messages about what was OK and not OK for you to do. They could have been messages about gender roles such as men shouldn’t be passionate about food (although there are many phenomonal male chefs!) or it could have been about family tradition such as our family never participates in these sports or about any other deliniations about what was or was not OK.
If any of these resonate with you, I just want to validate that you’re not alone and that you can choose to take courage and step out and spend your time the way that you really want to spend it.
I know some of you may be thinking, what in the world does this have to do with time management?
But the truth is that it has EVERYTHING to do with time management.
If you’re not honest about your true priorities, you’ll always feel a resistance to your plans and end up a bit disatisfied even when you achieve them.
So to help you break through this resistance, I would like you to ask yourself these questions:
- Am I being held back from owning my true priorities by feeling overwhelmed, timid, embarrassed or some combination of these emotions?
- Then ask yourself, what would I do if:
- I was guaranteed all the support and information I needed?
- Everyone would agree that what was important to me was important?
- No one would judge what I did?
Did any fresh ideas start coming to your mind?
New possibilities… new opportunities… new dreams?
I hope so 🙂
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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